The Farming Mothers Christmas Overwhelm Guide
- thefarmingmother
- Dec 11, 2024
- 4 min read
10 Top Tips for Supporting SEND Parents Through the Christmas Season
As the festive season approaches, I find myself reflecting on the joys and challenges that come with it, especially for those of us navigating the unique journey of raising children with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND). The Christmas period can be a whirlwind of excitement, but it can also bring its own set of challenges, both for our little ones and for us as parents. Today, I want to share with you some heartfelt tips that can help nurture your wellbeing while supporting your children through this special time of year.
1. Prioritise Self-Care
Amidst the hustle and bustle, it’s essential to carve out some time just for you. Whether it’s a warm cup of tea in a quiet corner, a walk in the crisp winter air, or a few pages of a good book, nurturing your own wellbeing is vital. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup!
2. Create a Flexible Schedule
Christmas can be overwhelming, so it’s helpful to create a flexible schedule that accommodates your family’s needs. Include downtime between activities, and don’t hesitate to adjust plans if things become too much. It’s perfectly okay to say “no” to some events to prioritise your family’s wellbeing.
Remember……..
⚡️forget social media’s picture perfect
it’s BS
It doesn’t show the chaos before or after
stop comparing and stop apologising for how your life is and how different it is from the “norm”
who said that’s the “norm”
3. Communicate Openly
Talk with your children about what they’re feeling as Christmas approaches. Encourage them to express their thoughts and emotions, and reassure them that it’s okay to feel both excited and anxious about the changes that come with the season. Open communication can help them feel more secure.
If the usual going to peoples houses or events do not work for your child explain this and do a alternative it’s you who then has to deal with the aftermath of trying to meet others expectations and it’s not worth it!
⚡️ journal your own thoughts feelings and emotions
4. Set Realistic Expectations
As parents, we often feel pressure to create the “perfect” Christmas. Instead, focus on what truly matters to your family. It might be a cozy movie night, baking cookies together, or simply enjoying each other’s company. Let go of the notion of perfection and embrace the beauty of simplicity.
5. Incorporate Routine
Children with SEND often thrive on routine, so try to maintain some of your regular daily structures amidst the festive chaos. This can provide a sense of security and predictability, making the season more enjoyable for everyone.
6. Engage in Sensory Activities
The sights, sounds, and smells of Christmas can be overwhelming for some children. Create sensory-friendly activities, such as making homemade decorations, playing with festive scents, or engaging in calming crafts. Tailor these experiences to your child’s sensory preferences.
Activity boxes - grab some plastic containers set up activities 10 mins, 20 mins that your children can do well you take a bit of you time. These are super exciting as it things that are not out all the time
Make bird feeder, pipe cleaners and cheerios
Decorate digestive Biscuits with icing pens
Colour crafts or make a Christmas decoration
⚡️Honour your own Ways
Work to your strengths
God my sunday dinner went tits up this weekend because my adhd brain couldn’t handle timings and too much thinking well meeting the needs of my daughter.
Make a list add times each thing went on etc so you have a visual to refer back too.
Also get yourself the Nathan Anthony slow cook and ninja air fryer book they are game changers.
7. Embrace Quiet Moments
In the midst of all the festivities, be sure to carve out quiet moments for your family. These can be as simple as a cozy evening with lights dimmed and soft music playing, or a peaceful stroll in the park. These quiet times can help everyone recharge and reconnect, providing a gentle counterbalance to the holiday hustle.
Even when if you still have one running wild who cares it’s what works for you.
8. Involve Your Child in Holiday Preparations
Let your child be a part of the holiday preparations! Whether it’s decorating the tree, wrapping gifts, or baking treats, involving them in the process can help them feel more engaged and excited about the season. Tailor activities to their abilities, ensuring that they feel a sense of accomplishment and joy.
And it’s totally ok it they don’t want too.
9. Connect with Other SEND Families
Reach out to other families who understand the unique challenges of raising children with SEND. Sharing experiences, tips, and even just a good laugh can strengthen your support network. Whether it’s a coffee catch-up or an online chat, knowing you’re not alone can be incredibly comforting.
10. Practice Gratitude
In the midst of all the holiday hustle, take a moment to reflect on what you and your family are grateful for. This could be a simple family tradition, the joy of being together, or the support you have from friends and family. Encourage your children to share what they are thankful for, too. Practicing gratitude can shift focus away from stress and cultivate a positive mindset.
As we embrace this festive season, let’s remember that it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions. The holiday period can be both magical and challenging, especially for SEND families. By prioritising your wellbeing, communicating openly, and creating a nurturing environment, you can help make the holiday season a joyful experience for your children.
Know that your wellbeing is a priority too
if your feeling overwhelmed and dysregulated take time for you!!
Together, let’s cherish the moments, celebrate our unique journeys, and support each other through the ups and downs of this wonderful time of year. Wishing you all a peaceful, joyful, and love-filled Christmas!
Feel free to try out the quiz for SEN mums
With warm Christmas wishes
The Farming Mother
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